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What happens when your children's friends change and mature faster than your children? You are also aware that their child is engaging in things that you don't want your child to do. How do you prevent a play-date? During past encounters the child shared information with your children that was too advanced and sneaky. Unfortunately, the parent does like spending time with child's parent.
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What happens when your children's friends change and mature faster than your children? You are also aware that their child is engaging in things that you don't want your child to do. How do you prevent a play-date? During past encounters the child shared information with your children that was too advanced and sneaky. Unfortunately, the parent does like spending time with child's parent.
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I have been in this situation many times and I dealt with both my child's friend and parent separately. I first told the child that my child is not allowed to do the things he/she is doing and if they were going to do something like that please do not do it when my kid is on a playdate with them, I then told them as a responsible parent, I knew what my child was ready for at his/her age. Most kids respected my wishes and realized they weren't ready for it either. Then I would approach the child's parent and let her know that my child is not allowed to do what she allows her child to do and if she wants them to continue to have play dates then she should make sure that if my son/daughter is in her home she respects my wishes and does not let the kids do anything that I do not approve of. In fact my daughter was at a party a few years ago when she was around 17 and the parent came out of the kitchen with beer for the kids, when she saw my daughter she immediately turned around and said, "OMG her mom will kill me." No liquor was served at that party that day, but my kid wasn't invited to any more parties at their house, but it didn't matter to my daughter because the kids would just get drunk and sloppy and she didn't want to be look or act like them. While my kids were in school I made sure I was on committees at school that would directly affect my kids such as being the President of the Health and Safety committee, a Girl Scout Leader, a soccer coach and basketball coach (even though I was strict I was lots of fun and kids would beg to be on my teams and beg to come to my home).
ReplyDeleteSo don't be afraid to approach the parent and child and tell them how you feel, I'm sure they will respect your wishes if they are true friends.
Thanks for the great advice but the mother is not approachable. Something
ReplyDeletesimilar has happened in the past and she got weird when I said something. I have been avoiding play dates, but still talking on the phone with her. I may just do a limited time together, two hours max.