One of Chat Me More's followers needs some help with this problem.
She is throwing a baby shower and the person she is throwing it for is trying to
take control and doesn't want to have it on that date, unless the RSVP's come back with the results of a large number.
The problem is the person is traveling from another state to throw the baby shower.
What to do? Please share your thoughts under comments.
She is throwing a baby shower and the person she is throwing it for is trying to
take control and doesn't want to have it on that date, unless the RSVP's come back with the results of a large number.
The problem is the person is traveling from another state to throw the baby shower.
What to do? Please share your thoughts under comments.
Sounds like a "Drama Momma!" I think sometimes the Mother to be forgets how much time and personal expense a baby shower costs$$ not to mention it's very hurtful when the person doesn't consider anyone except herself. Sounds like you have a very young mom on your hands. Thank God she's giving birth she'll soon find out what it is to share give and be greatfull. Say a prayer drink a shot of Vodka offer what you can and if what you have to offer isn't enough, wish her luck and send a gift.
ReplyDeleteGood luck and god bless you...
Unfortunately she is not young, but clueless in what goes into a baby shower or for that matter when someone is willing to travel and make it about you (her)! I agree a shot of vodka is the way to go~!!!!
ReplyDeleteI think you should both compromise, both agree to select a different date that works for both of you and of course the guests. She is very lucky to have you to agree to throw a party for her but remember your #1 priority is making her happy. Pregnant moms are hormonal and are under a lot of stress, especially first time moms, so you sometimes have to overlook the things they say. Remember the most important thing here is making the mom-to-be happy so she can have a healthy stress free pregnancy.
ReplyDeleteActually dates were offered in the beginning to be changed, but still wasn't good enough. You cannot base dates on RSVP's! It should be about making the mom happy, but not at the expense of making everyone miserable. I was pregnant twice and was appreciative with everything someone did for me , no matter how small.
ReplyDeleteI think the best thing is to talk it over, don't let this get in the way of your relationship with one another, i'm sure you both can come to an understanding you both are adults am I right? As for the travel part, she is lucky that you are willing to do all this work from out of town, but I am sure you can make it a nice vacay for yourself. Kiss and makeup and make it a time you both will look back on and say "I had a wonderful time, that was the best baby shower anyone could ask for" and "I am so happy she got all of those beautiful gifts for her baby and I am so happy I put that beautiful smile on her face". Good luck, you both can do this :)
ReplyDeleteI wish it was that simple, but kids were effected and many family members.
ReplyDeletePlaying a yo-yo has never been a great role for me. I do think it is past the making up stage. Too hurtful to move on.....
Wow, how sad I am astounded in people and how they think. There is no room for negotiations how does that happened? One goes from planning to self destruction, why?
ReplyDeleteYou got me beat I am the person that was doing it all and the bomb was dropped, not feeling good either, but sometimes you must do what is best for you and your family. I have moved on and made other plans for that date. It sucks, but oh well......
ReplyDeleteI agree with you Anonymous #7, as far as I can see this wasn't done from the heart because if it was you could have negotiated another date, you sure you weren't doing this for selfish reasons? At first you were doing something so unselfish and beautiful then when things didn't go your way or she disagrees with you, you become cold and quit. Think about this before you make yourself look bad, cause right now that is how it looks, the mom is the victim not you. Turn it around and be the better person, you will be happier and proud of yourself.
ReplyDeleteActually a date of early October was given and still wasn't good enough. When you have children that go back to school in August you are limited. The whole truth that caused the self destruction was the person offered something and rescinded after a month of planning. Now it is out of my hands my husband is angry and is tired of this person always using me. He refuses to do anything for this person. Very sad, but actual this person is self destructive and causes a lot of disharmony to others. My family was devastated and not even a phone call to explain why plans have changed she did everything through emails. That shows how inconsiderate that person is. Thank you for all your thoughts, but I truly feel making a mends is impossible my husband had enough with this person!
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ReplyDeleteOMG I can't believe the comments of 5/22,8:19 pm. If the mom-to-be agreed to that date after being offered choices then SHE is the one being selfish. Especially if she knows, obviously she does, that the woman throwing the party is coming from out of town! Plane tickets need to be bought, house sitters arranged, event plans made all via phone or email, etc. all before even arriving to "throw" the shower. If mom-to-be really wanted "Susie" at the party but "Suzie" couldn't make it - then OH WELL! Many moms have more than one shower - so invite her to another event. If there is no second event then I'm sure "Suzie" would arrange a time to drop by with good wishes and possibly a gift. Hormones are no excuse for bad behavior like that!
ReplyDeleteWow, thank you what a powerful post and quite a truthful one. The part that really strikes me is the mother-to-be just doesn't get it. I guess she will get it when she gets a baby shower that is JUST thrown together. It really is too bad because it seemed that the person originally involved had it together.....
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